Tender

adj. kind, calm warm

What it means

Gently attentive to vulnerability, affection, or pain.

Reach for it when describing care that is soft, protective, and emotionally present

He offered a tender goodbye that made room for both gratitude and grief.

How strong it is

  1. subtle FondSympathetic
  2. noticeable CaringAffectionate
  3. strong TenderConnected
  4. intense TrustingCompassionate
  5. peak LovingDevoted

Tender is strong (3 of 5) among the warmth words, from subtle to peak. The scale compares words; it does not measure a person. All warmth words

Words to choose between 8

By register, from playful at the top to literary at the bottom. Tap a word to see when it fits.
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  • playful

    softhearted

    Fits when easily stirred sympathy is being praised informally

    Careful Softhearted can hint at sentimentality or weak boundaries.

  • everyday

    caring

    Fits when concern shown through action should sound straightforward

    Careful Caring is broader and less intimate than the softness conveyed by tender.

  • everyday

    gentle

    Fits when soft treatment and absence of force are key

    Careful Gentle can describe technique without the affection or emotional depth of tender.

  • warm

    affectionate

    Fits when openly expressed fondness is the main quality

    Careful Affectionate is not right for careful compassion toward a stranger's pain.

  • warm

    loving

    Fits when love itself can be stated without reservation

    Careful Loving overstates relationships where kindness is real but intimacy is not.

  • professional

    compassionate

    Fits when suffering is recognized and answered with help

    Careful Compassionate is too weighty for a small gesture of fondness.

  • professional

    nurturing

    Fits when support helps someone grow or recover over time

    Careful Nurturing suggests sustained development, not a single affectionate moment.

  • literary

    delicate

    Fits when lightness of touch or treatment is visible

    Careful Delicate can signal fragility without the care expressed by tender.

Opposites 3

  • harsh
  • callous
  • rough

Common phrases 3

  • tender care

    Tender care helped the frightened animal accept food from the rescuer.

  • tender moment

    They shared a tender moment while sorting their grandmother's recipes.

  • tender gesture

    Leaving the porch light on was a tender gesture of welcome.

Word family 2

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