Deference

n. kind, thoughtful formal

What it means

Respectful willingness to give weight to another person's judgment, wishes, or experience.

Reach for it when recognizing when respect leads someone to yield space or priority without surrendering all judgment

In deference to residents, the planners moved the listening session into the neighborhood.

Words to choose between 6

By register, from playful at the top to literary at the bottom. Tap a word to see when it fits.
everyday
professional
formal
literary
  • everyday

    respect

    Fits when valuing another person's rights, ability, or standing is enough

    Careful Respect does not necessarily involve yielding a choice, turn, or priority.

  • professional

    courtesy

    Fits when polite consideration shapes behavior

    Careful Courtesy may be conventional good manners rather than recognition of superior knowledge or standing.

  • formal

    acquiescence

    Fits when someone accepts a decision without active objection

    Careful Acquiescence may be reluctant or passive and does not prove genuine respect.

  • formal

    regard

    Fits when thoughtful consideration for wishes or circumstances matters

    Careful Regard can mean esteem or attention without the act of yielding implied by deference.

  • formal

    submission

    Fits when one party accepts another's authority or control

    Careful Submission removes agency and is wrong for voluntary, limited respect between equals.

  • literary

    reverence

    Fits when profound respect for something sacred or deeply honored is intended

    Careful Reverence reaches toward devotion, which overstates ordinary professional respect.

Opposites 3

  • defiance
  • disregard
  • presumption

Common phrases 3

  • out of deference

    Out of deference to the family, reporters waited until the announcement was complete.

  • show deference

    New members showed deference to the technicians who understood the old system.

  • deference to experience

    Deference to experience did not prevent the apprentices from asking careful questions.

Definitions and examples are written for this site. How words are chosen Recording: Whomping Walrus, American accent, from Wikimedia Commons, CC0 Updated